Remember when Disney had a cute, disabled, poc mermaid?
When i was younger, one of my best friends was a deaf guyanese girl, and her fave princess was Ariel, mainly bc she related to her living without a voice (and her love of swimming)
When this episode aired, she cried and squawked and made sounds that were almost understandable… She saw herself as a mermaid, on tv, with her favourite character of all time
Representation matters, always, no matter what
This is beautiful
This isn’t a cute couple’s game. When you’re with me, there is no way out. If that is too much to ask, then we are not a good match.
"There is no way out" is seriously the most controlling, awful thing I’ve ever heard.
fuck any edaddy, or real daddy, or any fucking dom who says they won’t allow safewords. the amount of damage, physically and mentally, this can and WILL cause is ridiculous.
And poor misguided girls go to this fuckwad for advice.
He needs to be left in a hot car.
Yeahhhh limits exist for a reason that’s not being dominant that’s called praying on victims trying to normalize trauma and that’ realllly not how health sub/dom relationships should ever work.
Had a dream last night that I was awake all night driving around trying to check into a locked mental institution.
I hate asking for help, but right now I could really use it.
Over the past few months I haven’t been able to work much due to mental illness, and a few weeks ago my computer stopped working, which I desperately need because I’m self employed and can’t work other jobs due to mental and physical…
Hey so I’ve got about half of what I need right now, and a few other things have come up.
Thanks so much to everyone who has donated, and if y’all can keep reblogging it for a bit it’d be appreciated, thanks so much, im sorry for clogging up yr dash with my desperation!
I was driving past a business here in the Houston Heights, when I glimpsed this painted on the side of the building. I recognized that iconic WWII poster before I realized it was not just any woman, but 14 year old Malala Yousafzai, the Pakistani girl who was attacked for wanting an education. The words next to her are her quote, ( “I don’t mind if I have to sit on the floor at school.) All I want is education. And I’m afraid of no one.”
This is gorgeous.
Anonymous said: Am I still asexual if I want someone (not a specific person) to touch my boobs?
Yup. That can fall under sensual attraction - wanting touch. If you don’t feel sexual attraction, then you are asexual, regardless of what else you feel you want.
Just a reminder that while positivity is a great tool it is not healthy to:
- repress negative thoughts/feelings
- feel guilty for having negative thoughts/feelings
- feel that you can’t express negative thoughts/feelings
Negative emotions are a part of life, and a truly balanced cognitive strategy will accept this (while working to change the balance of good to bad and teaching you coping strategies/self care/distraction etc)
Hey tumblr! Did you know that if you suffer from depression / anxiety or any other mental illness, you can register your dog as an emotional support animal, making it illegal for a landlord to refuse to rent to you? That’s right. No breed…
does this mean my cat could go with me to college if I was in a dorm?
theoretically, if you have the documentation from your doctor, yes. whether or not it would be honored? debatable.
i looked into bringing my cat to college, and when i emailed them about it asking what i would need to prove that she was a therapy cat they told me the only pets they allowed were small fish. i told them i understood that but she wouldn’t be a pet, she’d be a therapy cat. they repeated their policy on pets.
now, it’s not actually legal for them to deny you your therapy animal. i didn’t push it because i came to the conclusion that with my chronic illness i wouldn’t be able to properly take care of my cat, plus i’d still have to get the documentation and that was stress i couldn’t handle, so i had to leave her at home.
but therapy pets are BY LAW allowed even in places that say “no pets”. so legally they should not be able to deny you IF you have the documentation from your doctor. this does not mean they won’t try (if largely out of complete unfamiliarity with the law). but yes, you should be allowed to bring your therapy animal to college. you just may have to fight for it.
thank you so much ;~;
I’ll look into it and if I feel that having my cat around is necessary then I’ll take the steps to getting documents and working it out with the college and everything!
no problem <3 a word of advice: definitely definitely start the process sooner rather than later. i’ve come to learn lately that the medical establishment absolutely THRIVES on taking forever to get anything done. don’t stress yourself out over it, but try to get the conversation started with both your doctor and your college as soon as you can! i wish you lots of luck ;w;
My therapist would be the one to talk to here right?
yes! i just kept saying doctor cause my cat would be therapy for processing problems caused by my nervous system and i have a doctor not a therapist for that. orz but yeah talk to your therapist about it!
It bears mentioning that Therapy / companion / emotional support animals can be refused in restaurants. Only certified service are allowed in restaurants but everywhere else they are legally allowed. There are different laws for food establishments.
The opposite end of traditional “street harassment”: the girl who never gets cat called
In feminist spaces I see a lot of feminists complain about being street harassed. I read about it and I totally sympathize with their experiences, even though I have never experienced them myself. I am a female myself but am not conventionally attractive. I am not hideous but more or less a plain jane. On top of that I have ALWAYS valued comfort over style, so dressing feminine isn’t something I do on a regular basis. I wear a lot of loose jeans and T-shirts. But yeah, anyway, know that I am not trying to play “who has it harder” or anything but rather I am making this to share my experiences of getting the opposite end of the shit-covered stick that is street harassment that I don’t see being mentioned. I call it street dismissal.
When I say street dismissal I am talking about men who feel the need to subtly announce that unattractive women are not worthy of respect or acknowledgement because they are not a conventionally attractive female or their fellow man.
Some examples I’ve personally experienced include:
- Many guys at parties will arrive or leave, give all the men handshakes, give the attractive women hugs, but won’t even make eye contact with me. I am not a guy or a hot girl so I don’t exist.
- I’ve been bumped into in public without an apology by men. I am not an attractive girl or your fellow man, so it makes sense for you to not even notice I am there.
- One time I was walking behind a group of attractive women. A guy spotted us. Opened the door for the three women and shut the door in my face. I am not worthy of his time because I am not attractive.
- I once was charged a cover on ladies night because I went out to the bar in my work uniform. (red shirt khaki pants)
- Another time at a bar, I saw an open space to order a drink. The guy sitting next to me saw me, raised his eyebrows and turned the other way to make sure I don’t DARE try to talk to him. (Because I totally went there to hit on him and NOT get a drink right?)
- I once went with my gay male friend to a straight guy’s house he knew. The first thing out of the straight guy’s mouth was “I was totally excited when you had a chick with you. Nevermind!” The whole night he offered my friend drinks and didn’t offer me a thing and seemed frustrated when I asked where the bathroom was. The only other thing he said that night was “Do you have any hot single friends that would come over here?”
- Another time I went with a female friend of mine to get drinks. We met up with her guy friend. He ordered a round of beers for everyone except me. His excuse was “he didn’t know she was going to bring someone along and he is low on money” that was until his guy friend from high school showed up unexpectedly and he quickly bought him a drink.
These are just examples that have happened to me. So my question is are there any other “unattractive” girls out there that experience things similar to this?
I just wanted to speak from the other perspective. We always hear the horror stories of sexism from the perspective of the women who are objectified by men in the sense of “oo I want that.” and not too many in the sense of “oo, ew DO NOT WANT.”
This may seem like a big long rant that looks like “WAH PRETTY GIRLS GET THINGS AND I DON’T OH MY LIFE SUCKS” but I don’t mean to come off that way. Because I feel the need to mention that guys don’t do this just to get laid. This is where it’s important to bring up the fact that we are treated with less respect than other men. Men aren’t decent people to other men because they want to fuck them. They are decent to them because they see them as equals that deserve basic respect and acknowledgement. But we are women and to these men either you try to fuck them because they are hot or want them to go away. An unattractive woman has no purpose to him.
Misogyny affects all women negatively.
When I saw the first line I thought this post was going to be a boohooing tale about someone who desperately wanted to get harassed by men for hotness validation, but it was nothing of the sort. This is important and we should definitely see this brought up more in conversations regarding men’s general attitudes toward and interactions with women.
I hear stories like this mostly from big women or women who used to be a lot bigger than they are now. A woman told me she was once straight up punched in the face, after the guy told her she was disgusting and fat, and he just walked on and laughed. And the saddest part is that she told me, a lot of women harrassed her as well :(
OP is right, women are not left alone or “ignored” just because men dont find them attractive. And as the OP says, ignoring someone can be done in a rude and aggressive way.
And some people get both.
I’m a super fat women and I both get harassed/streetcalled/rubbed up on in public, but I also get completely ignored.
One time super late at night I was on the train and a complete stranger, a man, came up to me and started screaming at me and demanding money. I was reading a book and he got in my face and physically slapped it out of my hands and onto the floor, yelling and threatening me and demanding money and calling me names/insulting me. I loudly stated that I didn’t know him and asked him to leave me alone. Nobody in the train car reacted. The only other woman there stared stonily ahead (I don’t blame her at all). Finally, a tall guy stood up and walked toward me… to sit next to the (slender, conventionally attractive woman) putting his body between her and the screaming guy assaulting me. Nobody addressed the screaming man threatening me. Nobody pushed the brightly lit blue call button to notify the conductor. I didn’t matter. The other (thinner, more conventionally attractive) woman who was (not yet) in the line of fire mattered more than I did.
I wound up scrambling off the train just before the doors closed at the next stop, even though it wasn’t my stop and I knew there’d be a 20+ minute wait for the next train. I really hoped the guy wouldn’t be able to follow me out. Part of the reason I didn’t stay on until my stop (which was the next one after) was because I didn’t want him to disembark with me and follow me home… something that’s happened before.
There are a lot of different ways to harass women. Both responding aggressively to their femininity/perceived sexual availability and also denying it, devaluing them because they aren’t feminine enough. Both are harmful. Both just… chip away at the person, at the soul, at the worth of someone. It’s a constant slow eroding drip wearing us down.
Yes to all this. I’ve been sexually harassed, fat shamed and invisible depending on how someone decides how valuable I am to them. It cuts at you.
I think I’ve already reblogged this but I don’t care. It’s so important. It’s SO important. In our society, you either exist as an object to be fucked or you’re ignored or greeted with anger if you’re not deemed fuckable enough. And it’s perverse and disgusting and I am so tired of hearing these stories from women. We are more. Whether we’re thin or fat, conventionally attractive or plain, no matter what color we are, we deserve respect and we aren’t getting it, (and many times WOC get it worse than white women, which I think it’s important to remember) and it makes me so tired and so sad.
This needs to be spread. The worst I’ve been harassed is also the most difficult to understand: I was not even a block away from my workplace walking at 8am in the frigid Midwest in a long, black puffy coat with black tights and boots and a man in a car driving opens his window to yell “NICE PUSSY.” I only caught the tail end so I pretended it didn’t happen until he purposefully made a u-turn to pass by me to scream it AGAIN. Thankfully he didn’t stop to continue but seriously, he couldn’t see anything (certainly not my vagina) and I was still nothing but an object. I’ve taken to wearing my headphones walking back and forth from work (no more than a few blocks). Harassment in all forms is degrading and makes one feel like their personal safety is compromised. Thank you everyone for sharing your stories
For all my kitchen witches.
This is all super important to know even if you don’t cook/bake, because one time I confused teaspoon and tablespoon when taking medication with codeine and passed out on the couch for 14 hours.
This is amazing.
If you do metric and want to do the math, 1 cup is approximately 250mL and 1 quart is approximately 1L. The rest you can figure out from that information. Being able to convert is helpful. Though most measuring cups and spoons in Canada have both metric and imperial listed on them.
One of the harder things about being sick is the constant questioning yourself of the severity of your symptoms and whether you’re overplaying or underplaying them. It’s so hard to gauge how you’re feeling when your idea of ‘normal’ or ‘okay’ is so different from…
all my feels right now
It’s about time that a multifaceted and diverse representation of trans themes, stories, and characters that mirror, validate, educate, and empower trans folks are being expressed and seen through the medium of film/media! Trans Cinema is hot, here, and now! More trans stories are expressed in film/media than ever before. As a queer, trans filmmaker and artist, I am excited to see so many empowering new trans films being made! During Frameline38: The San Francisco International LGBT Film Festival, I saw several amazing, diverse, and riveting trans feature films; Kumu Hina, Drunktown’s Finest, 52 Tuesdays, andSomething Must Break as well as two trans shorts film programs; Transtastic! and The City Of Shy Hunters. The City Of Shy Hunters is a new trans shorts program that focuses solely on trans masculine films. This was the first year that it debuted at Frameline38.This year at Frameline38, I didn’t have a chance to see every single trans feature film. Where as in years past, I did see every trans feature film on the festival line-up as well as Transtastic!, the trans shorts program, curated by the talented and wonderful Shawna Virago and The San Francisco Transgender Film Festival. Virago is a San Francisco based transgender musician, writer, performer and the Artistic Director of the San Francisco Transgender Film Festival. Some of my highlights from this year’s Transtastic! line-up were Who Do You Think You Are? A narrative French short film by Marie Loustalot. I resonated with the trans protagonist, enjoyed the story, sound design, and the pacing of the film. I would like to see this short made into a feature. I am partial towards French Cinema; contemporary as well as the French New Wave.Transforming Family, directed by Canadian, Remy Huberdeau is a diverse, educational, and fascinating short documentary about trans and gender fluid parents or parents-to-be in contemporary North American society. I found every interview authentic and it was very insightful to hear the first hand point of view of trans and gender fluid parents and parents-to-be. Transforming Family is the first film that I’ve seen that explores a diverse range of experiences and subjects exploring the themes of family from the perspective of parents and parents-to-be with the complexities of trans and gender fluid identities. It is a subject that needs to be explored more in cinema. It’s an educational documentary for all that view it. For me as an insider and filmmaker of trans cinema, I learned from watching this documentary. I would love to see Transforming Family made into a feature. I appreciate that the subjects interviewed shared a diverse range of experiences.Another wonderful Canadian short film by Artist/Director Iris Moore is Beyond The Mirror’s Gaze. Beyond The Mirror’s Gaze is a whimsical, tender, and imaginative animation. I love the style of the animation and the interchanging of body parts; facial features, eyes, and genitalia, to show the playful explorations of gender, desire, and identity in this sweet and short documentary. Gender Games, directed by Veronica Lopez and Meg Smaker is about a middle-aged trans woman who after a 30-year absence returns to college and joins the women’s basketball team. I really enjoyed this documentary that touched upon themes of aging, acceptance, and making a commitment to what one is passionate about and doing it. It’s an inspiring and insightful documentary that stands solidly on its own as a short film.Click the title for the full article.